Nikki Holland

A Short Note About Wonder Woman

With about 75% of the rest of the world (it seems), I went to see Wonder Woman last Friday with my husband. I was nervous. Would they declare her to be wonderful because she performs well according to our culture’s male ideals? Would it be a celebration that women can be just as destructive asContinue reading “A Short Note About Wonder Woman”

Idolatry of the penis

This is a Guest Post written by Jean Kamps. Consent is not once. Consent is given over and over and over. A dear friend wrote an article about something that really needed to be said, even though it’s sad it needed to be said and isn’t just known — sexual consent is not given onceContinue reading “Idolatry of the penis”

Consent and 1 Corinthians 7

There’s an article. I am not going to post a link to it because I don’t want to give it clicks. It went around about a year ago and now it’s going around again, with the approval of Christians. It’s about how in Christian marriages, you don’t have to ask for consent for sex becauseContinue reading “Consent and 1 Corinthians 7”

Good enough?

This is a guest post written by Jean Kamps. My grandfather says he is egalitarian in the church. That is, he believes and practices gender equality in the church. But in marriage, he says, he is complementarian. In marriage, he has a hang up on one word: respect. Egalitarian: term for gender equality used inContinue reading “Good enough?”

Do Christians Really Want Freedom for the Oppressed?

I have not written a post since the US Presidential election. I haven’t been able to. I had serious concerns about Hilary Clinton, particularly her stance on war and her preference for companies over people.* I did not vote for her (although I would have thought about that harder if I’d have been votingContinue reading “Do Christians Really Want Freedom for the Oppressed?”

Take Heart!

Sisters, mothers, and daughters, My heart has been very heavy the last week or so listening to the Church’s response to ugly words and actions towards women by one of our presidential candidates. I have been feeling the need for some encouragement. So I’m writing some — to you and to myself, too. Women, weContinue reading “Take Heart!”

Re-framing my Nature

Charissa Garver, a good friend of mine, wrote this to me last week. She gave me permission to reproduce it here. I love the way her self-image has changed as she has found freedom in Christ. “Be who God meant you to be and you’ll set the world on fire.” — St Catherine of SienaContinue reading “Re-framing my Nature”

I Care about Gender Hierarchy Because…

“Power tends to corrupt and absolute power corrupts absolutely.” – Lord Acton We established in my last blog post about this topic (which you will find helpful to read in conjunction with this one, if you haven’t already) that complementarian men have all the practical power in a relationship. What happens in relationships with unequal balancesContinue reading “I Care about Gender Hierarchy Because…”

A Letter to my Younger Self

This is a guest post from my friend, Wren-Margaret Grace. If I could look back and come alongside my younger self, the younger version of me as I was writing my own letters to my future husband, I would say this: I know your heart is so tender and pure. I love that about you. InContinue reading “A Letter to my Younger Self”

The Curse of Woman and the ESV

I have often stated that this blog is not about Biblical scholarship. There are many people who have already done that way better than I could and I see no reason to attempt to repeat their work. No. This blog is about the implications of what Biblical scholarship reveals and how it affects our lives.Continue reading “The Curse of Woman and the ESV”