Category Archives: marriage

CBE International Conference

This past weekend I got to experience the great joy and gift of attending CBE International’s annual conference, this year in Orlando, FL. I was chosen as one of three winners of their student paper contest and I got to read my paper at the conference (which, I learned, will be published probably early nextContinue reading “CBE International Conference”

Bump in the Road to Equality

Recently I read a comic about mental load, which (to ridiculously oversimplify things) is the concept that women hold a disproportionate amount of organization in their minds. We keep in our minds everything that must be done in our homes and for our families. I read the comic about a week too late to avoidContinue reading “Bump in the Road to Equality”

Idolatry of the penis

This is a Guest Post written by Jean Kamps. Consent is not once. Consent is given over and over and over. A dear friend wrote an article about something that really needed to be said, even though it’s sad it needed to be said and isn’t just known — sexual consent is not given onceContinue reading “Idolatry of the penis”

Consent and 1 Corinthians 7

There’s an article. I am not going to post a link to it because I don’t want to give it clicks. It went around about a year ago and now it’s going around again, with the approval of Christians. It’s about how in Christian marriages, you don’t have to ask for consent for sex becauseContinue reading “Consent and 1 Corinthians 7”

Good enough?

This is a guest post written by Jean Kamps. My grandfather says he is egalitarian in the church. That is, he believes and practices gender equality in the church. But in marriage, he says, he is complementarian. In marriage, he has a hang up on one word: respect. Egalitarian: term for gender equality used inContinue reading “Good enough?”

I Care about Gender Hierarchy Because…

“Power tends to corrupt and absolute power corrupts absolutely.” – Lord Acton We established in my last blog post about this topic (which you will find helpful to read in conjunction with this one, if you haven’t already) that complementarian men have all the practical power in a relationship. What happens in relationships with unequal balancesContinue reading “I Care about Gender Hierarchy Because…”

A Letter to my Younger Self

This is a guest post from my friend, Wren-Margaret Grace.  If I could look back and come alongside my younger self, the younger version of me as I was writing my own letters to my future husband, I would say this: I know your heart is so tender and pure. I love that about you. InContinue reading “A Letter to my Younger Self”

Why do you care?

Sometimes people ask me why I care about other people’s marriages. Why do I make “such a big fuss” about complementarianism? Isn’t how we do marriages a personal decision? Aren’t there happy and healthy complementarian marriages? When people practice complementarian marriages “right” aren’t they good marriages? Well. Yes. To all of that. But. As IContinue reading “Why do you care?”

It’s my orgasm, not his [part 2]

This post is a guest post written by Jean Kamps. It is the second part of its title. To catch up on the discussion, see part 1. I see four glaring red lights flashing in Jasmine’s story, three things that we, the Body of Christ Himself, need to take into consideration if we are toContinue reading “It’s my orgasm, not his [part 2]”