CBE International Conference

This past weekend I got to experience the great joy and gift of attending CBE International’s annual conference, this year in Orlando, FL. I was chosen as one of three winners of their student paper contest and I got to read my paper at the conference (which, I learned, will be published probably early nextContinue reading “CBE International Conference”

Interpreting Gender

A few weeks ago, I saw a picture of a man holding a sign at a protest. He was wearing a T-shirt that said “True Christian.” His sign was a list of things that women should be: quiet, keepers at home (doing dishes, laundry, ironing, etc), submissive to husbands, silent in church, care-takers of children,Continue reading “Interpreting Gender”

Good enough?

This is a guest post written by Jean Kamps. My grandfather says he is egalitarian in the church. That is, he believes and practices gender equality in the church. But in marriage, he says, he is complementarian. In marriage, he has a hang up on one word: respect. Egalitarian: term for gender equality used inContinue reading “Good enough?”

I Care about Gender Hierarchy Because…

“Power tends to corrupt and absolute power corrupts absolutely.” – Lord Acton We established in my last blog post about this topic (which you will find helpful to read in conjunction with this one, if you haven’t already) that complementarian men have all the practical power in a relationship. What happens in relationships with unequal balancesContinue reading “I Care about Gender Hierarchy Because…”

Why do you care?

Sometimes people ask me why I care about other people’s marriages. Why do I make “such a big fuss” about complementarianism? Isn’t how we do marriages a personal decision? Aren’t there happy and healthy complementarian marriages? When people practice complementarian marriages “right” aren’t they good marriages? Well. Yes. To all of that. But. As IContinue reading “Why do you care?”

Practically Parenting Our Equals: Settling In

This introductory post is part of the series inspired by the reader request: I’d love for you to write about the practical working out of viewing your children as equals. Perhaps even a contrast from how you parented before!  Disclaimer The first question you might have if you’re reading this to get ideas for your ownContinue reading “Practically Parenting Our Equals: Settling In”

Headship in Context

The single biggest question Brian and I had and that we hear in regards to equal partnership in marriage is: “What about the verses that say that the man is the ‘head’ of the woman?” There is something very, VERY important missing in the traditional understanding of the concept that men are meant to beContinue reading “Headship in Context”

Follow the Leader

Last week I wrote about the main difference between complementarian and egalitarian marriages. I ended with a question – if no one is in charge, how do hard decisions get made? Somewhere along the way Christians started using terms like leader and follower to describe how marriages should work (though I cannot find this terminology for marriageContinue reading “Follow the Leader”