Daughter

I write essays each week as part of my seminary studies. Usually they are not related to the topic of this blog, but the one I wrote today ended up being very appropriate. It’s short – we have a strict word limit. I think this essay could stand to be expanded. But I like it […]

Torn Curtains

This is a guest post from my friend Charissa Garver. I have two main concerns with using terms like “soft comp” or saying about couples, “They say they are comp but they are probably egal.” My concerns are: Consent and Christian testimony for Jesus. I cannot think of a single woman I know personally that […]

Consent and 1 Corinthians 7

There’s an article. I am not going to post a link to it because I don’t want to give it clicks. It went around about a year ago and now it’s going around again, with the approval of Christians. It’s about how in Christian marriages, you don’t have to ask for consent for sex because […]

I Care about Gender Hierarchy Because…

“Power tends to corrupt and absolute power corrupts absolutely.” – Lord Acton We established in my last blog post about this topicĀ (which you will find helpful to read in conjunction with this one, if you haven’t already) that complementarian men have all the practical power in a relationship. What happens in relationships with unequal balances […]

The Curse of Woman and the ESV

I have often stated that this blog is not about Biblical scholarship. There are many people who have already done that way better than I could and I see no reason to attempt to repeat their work. No. This blog is about the implications of what Biblical scholarship reveals and how it affects our lives. […]

Why do you care?

Sometimes people ask me why I care about other people’s marriages. Why do I make “such a big fuss” about complementarianism? Isn’t how we do marriages a personal decision? Aren’t there happy and healthy complementarian marriages? When people practice complementarian marriages “right” aren’t they good marriages? Well. Yes. To all of that. But. As I […]

Safe Relationships and Expanding Hearts

Last week a friend posted a story about a girl who had been hurt by the book I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris. She believes that the IKDG mindset contributed to the rape she experienced. Another friend of mine, who is a man, commented that he disagreed with her conclusions. This was my response […]

It’s my orgasm, not his [part 2]

This post is the second part of its title. To catch up on the discussion, see part 1. I see four glaring red lights flashing in Jasmine’s story, three things that we, the Body of Christ Himself, need to take into consideration if we are to prove ourselves effective and not crippled. 1. Autonomy does […]

Painting

  Last weekend, my sister asked Brian to help her husband paint a room in her house and she asked me to help my mom watch all the kids (8, including hers and mine, from 9 months to 8 years). She had to work and the room NEEDED to be painted. Brian and I were […]

Love Doesn’t Erase Women

This is a post my friend Ginna Baker and I wrote together, imagined as an interview, based on a Facebook conversation she started.   Nikki: So Ginna, I saw a post on your Facebook page this week asking your friends about their relationship to feminism: “Was there a first moment when you thought, ‘Maybe those […]