Bump in the Road to Equality

Recently I read a comic about mental load, which (to ridiculously oversimplify things) is the concept that women hold a disproportionate amount of organization in their minds. We keep in our minds everything that must be done in our homes and for our families. I read the comic about a week too late to avoid […]

Interpreting Gender

A few weeks ago, I saw a picture of a man holding a sign at a protest. He was wearing a T-shirt that said “True Christian.” His sign was a list of things that women should be: quiet, keepers at home (doing dishes, laundry, ironing, etc), submissive to husbands, silent in church, care-takers of children, […]

Take Heart!

Sisters, mothers, and daughters, My heart has been very heavy the last week or so listening to the Church’s response to ugly words and actions towards women by one of our presidential candidates. I have been feeling the need for some encouragement. So I’m writing some — to you and to myself, too. Women, we […]

I Care about Gender Hierarchy Because…

“Power tends to corrupt and absolute power corrupts absolutely.” – Lord Acton We established in my last blog post about this topic¬†(which you will find helpful to read in conjunction with this one, if you haven’t already) that complementarian men have all the practical power in a relationship. What happens in relationships with unequal balances […]

It’s my orgasm, not his [part 2]

This post is the second part of its title. To catch up on the discussion, see part 1. I see four glaring red lights flashing in Jasmine’s story, three things that we, the Body of Christ Himself, need to take into consideration if we are to prove ourselves effective and not crippled. 1. Autonomy does […]

Painting

  Last weekend, my sister asked Brian to help her husband paint a room in her house and she asked me to help my mom watch all the kids (8, including hers and mine, from 9 months to 8 years). She had to work and the room NEEDED to be painted. Brian and I were […]

How Equality Changed my Religion

My family/clan came out last week with the news that we have left our conservative evangelical denominations and become convinced Quakers — and we are gathering together to be a new little church! And nothing could possibly have surprised us more. Since we moved to Mexico, we’ve been searching for a church home. We went […]

Love Doesn’t Erase Women

This is a post my friend Ginna Baker and I wrote together, imagined as an interview, based on a Facebook conversation she started.   Nikki: So Ginna, I saw a post on your Facebook page this week asking your friends about their relationship to feminism: “Was there a first moment when you thought, ‘Maybe those […]

Trapped

Abuse comes in many forms. Physical, emotional, mental, spiritual. Unfortunately it is also pretty common among Christians, even ones who go to solid, Spirit filled churches. This post is pretty disturbing to me. It was written by a woman who wishes to remain anonymous. But I know her very well. I know that this is […]