Idolatry of the penis

Consent is not once. Consent is given over and over and over. A dear friend wrote an article about something that really needed to be said, even though it’s sad it needed to be said and isn’t just known — sexual consent is not given once on wedding day to last for a lifetime; sexual […]

Good enough?

My grandfather says he is egalitarian in the church. That is, he believes and practices gender equality in the church. But in marriage, he says, he is complementarian. In marriage, he has a hang up on one word: respect.  Egalitarian: term for gender equality used in Christian theology and church practice  Complementarian: term for gender […]

It’s my orgasm, not his [part 2]

This post is the second part of its title. To catch up on the discussion, see part 1. I see four glaring red lights flashing in Jasmine’s story, three things that we, the Body of Christ Himself, need to take into consideration if we are to prove ourselves effective and not crippled. 1. Autonomy does […]

He Let Me Open the Door

Last week, my husband and I experienced a huge triumph for our personal marital equality. He let me open and hold a door for him. Not a big deal? Oh, it really is. I suspect he will laugh when he first reads this, but then he’ll think it through and understand. You see, this has […]

Why Am I Here?

“Why am I here? What is the purpose of me?” These are normal questions we expect a lot of teens to ask, and I certainly did. But I didn’t begin by asking them from a broad existential point of view. I started by questioning my gender. No, not a gender identity crisis, but a gender role […]